5 Powerful Ways To Encourage Your Husband (that actually work)

This past week I took note of the fact that it had been quite some time since I intentionally did something to encourage my husband. You know. You understand. Life gets busy with responsibilities and the days turn into weeks. Some seasons feel a bit more like surviving than thriving. And that’s okay. But once you realize that it’s been awhile, it’s time to do something to remind your husband that you have his back and you’re still there with him doing this crazy thing called life.

Why Encouraging Your Husband Matters

As wives, we have been given such an honor to stand alongside our husband. We have this God-given opportunity every day to lift him up in a way that no one else can. Through the help of the Holy Spirit, we can intentionally encourage him in such a way that propels him forward and leads him out of his deepest insecurities.

When we make the effort to encourage our husbands, we strengthen our marriage bond and create a home filled with mutual respect and love.

5 Practical Ways to Encourage Your Husband Today

1. Write Him a Heartfelt Love Note

Take 10-15 minutes to write your husband a love note. Tell him how much you appreciate him and respect him, then leave the note somewhere he’ll discover it: on his side of the bed, in his car, in his lunchbox, or tucked in his wallet.

Why it works: A handwritten note shows thoughtfulness and gives him something tangible to keep and revisit when he needs encouragement.

2. Take Over One of His Regular Chores

Take care of a house chore that he normally does and thank him for how he provides for you and your children. Whether it’s taking out the trash, mowing the lawn, or handling a repair, this simple act shows you notice his contributions. (This week, I reorganized and cleaned up his office space)

Why it works: Actions speak louder than words, and lightening his load demonstrates appreciation in a concrete way.

3. Give Him Time to Pursue His Interests

Encourage him to go do something he loves. Send him out with the guys, give him guilt-free time to play a video game, or tell him to head to Lowe’s to get something he’s been wanting.

Why it works: Supporting his hobbies and friendships shows you value his happiness and personal fulfillment.

4. Prepare His Favorite Meal

Cook his favorite meal. It doesn’t have to be elaborate—even a simple dish he loves shows you’re thinking about what makes him happy.

Why it works: Food is a love language all its own, and comfort food prepared with love speaks volumes.

5. Initiate Intimacy

Initiate sex. This goes a long way, ladies! It’s okay that your love languages are different—just keep in mind that physical intimacy is often a primary love language for him, and he will appreciate your initiation more than you realize.

Why it works: Initiating intimacy makes him feel desired and valued, strengthening your emotional and physical connection.

What If Your Marriage Is Struggling?

Important note: If you’re reading this and you and your husband are not in a good place in one way or another, do something for him anyway. Don’t put it off just because there’s tension between you and him. Intentionally decide to honor him today and then watch as the wall between you comes crumbling down.

I promise you this works. It’s happened to me more times than I can count. Sometimes we just need to remind our spouse and ourselves that we’re on the same team.

**I also encourage you (and your husband) to read “Love and Respect.”

Start Encouraging Your Husband Today

Marriage is a journey that requires intentional effort from both partners. By taking small steps to encourage your husband regularly, you invest in a stronger, more loving relationship. These five simple ways to show appreciation can transform your marriage and remind both of you why you chose each other in the first place.

Praying for you, dear friend, that the Lord inspires you on how to creatively honor your husband today in a way that fills him up and encourages him!

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